OP - Day 3

No texts/calls from Ken were received by me.
Kids are so disappointed today. Daphnee called Ken and asked could they come over and hang out for a few hours, he said yes. Kenneth called Ken and asked him if he could take him, Julius and Daphnee out for breakfast on Monday April 26th (Kenneth's 14th birthday) at Blueberry Hills in Homewood, he said yes.
Around 1:30pm, the kids and I stopped by the Idlewild house so they could get some stuff there that they need. Julius was upset coming out of the house. He showed me a picture taken with his cell phone of an empty bottle of wine on the counter, one dirty glass in the sink. He was upset that Ken said that he didn't want to see them the night before but that he was drinking.
I took the boys get a haircut at Great Clips and Daphnee got her hair washed. We came home and had an early dinner/late lunch.
Around 4pm, Ken called Kenneth on his cell phone to tell him that he received some advice from someone not to see the kids until Wednesday. Therefore he was canceling Sunday's visit but also Monday's birthday breakfast and all Kenneth's celebration until Wednesday. The kids were very upset. After talking with him and me reviewing the order of protection, Julius called Ken back and told him that I was allowing these visits and that it was ok. Ken still didn't want to see them.
I offered visits on Saturday, Sunday and Monday - all were refused by Ken.

OP - Day 2

No calls or texts from Ken were received by me.
I repeatably reminded the children during the day to text him or call me to check on him. They did not until later on.
Around 2pm, I asked the children if they wanted to spend the evening or some time with their dad and they said yes. Julius called him and asked him could they meet him at McDonalds. Per Julius, Ken said that he did not want to see them right now because he was still mad. The children were disappointed.
Around 7pm, Daphnee called Ken from her new cell phone and had the call via speakerphone while I was with her in the boys bedroom. She asked him if they could come over to his house to which he responded that he could not be around me, therefore did not want them to come over. I quietly told Daphnee that I could drop them off in front of the house and she repeated that to Ken who once again told her that he didn't want them to come over. At that point, after Daphnee asked why, he proceeded to tell her that because I had an order of protection against him that he could not see them or be around me. Daphnee was on the verge of tears because for the second time in the day, Ken said that he did not want to see them.
At 7:20pm, I texted John C. to inform him to let Ken know that because he mentioned the court order to Daphnee over the phone, he could be in violation. A couple of texts between John and I followed.
At 8:33pm the children received a text from Ken saying "I love you" to which they all responded. Around 8:40pm we drove by the Idlewild home while dropping off Kenneth's friend home and the garage door was open, both vehicles in, light on. On the way back, nothing changed except the lights were off in the garage. As of 10pm, no additional texts/calls were exchanged between Ken and the children.

OP - Day 1

Ken texted me at 8:18am "Hi", not knowing about the order of protection. I did not answer his text. I received 3 phone calls from the Cook County Sheriff Department on Friday April 23, 2010 (10:20am, 12:48pm, 1:34pm) to inform me that the summons would be delivered to Ken that evening and that the children will be removed from his care during that time also. That I should be present to receive the children.
At 6pm, I received a call from the female deputy to inform me that they were on their way to Homewood and should be there around 7pm. At 7:02 I received a phone stating that they were 2 minutes form his house.
I arrived at Idlewild home around 7:06pm and parked behind the Sheriff's car. Ken and the children were outside. The children got their stuff from the house and got in the car. Ken was trying to talk to me but the deputies reminded him that he had to be quiet and was not allowed to talk to me. At 7:11pm I was told by the deputies that I could leave and took the children home. Ken was still in front of the house with the court order in hands talking to the deputies.
Ken did not call or text the children that night. Daphnee called him.

Order of Protection

On April 22, 2010 at 2:38pm, I was granted an order of protection against Ken for myself and the children for 21 days by Judge Rivera at the Daley Center, room 1908. During this time, Ken is not allowed to have any unlawful contacts with me. He is not allowed near by home on Ashland, both my work addresses in Alsip and in Chicago and my car (2009 Toyota Camry). I was granted physical custody of the children and visitation is changed to Wednesday night and Saturday night with no overnight during the week. Ken is restricted to not discuss the divorce case with the children or to badly talk about me to them. Next court day is scheduled for May 13, 2010 at 9:30am in Markham. The order of protection is valid until that day at 5pm.

Wednesday 1/27/10

Had a meeting with Cindy, my attorney, paid my $2,000 retainer fee using the Chase Credit Card and signed the agreement. She will start the divorce process and Ken is to be served with the paperwork via Cook County Sheriff.

State Farm (3)

I received a phone call from Debbie at State Farm informing me that since I had my own rental insurance, they had to remove me as the "owner" of the homeowner insurance for the Idlewild home and added me as a beneficiary. She confirms that in case of a loss, I would still receive my share of the insurance.

AT&T U-verse

On January 4, 2010, I received an email indicating that a voice mail was left on the Idlewild home house phone (xxx-xxx-0526). I was surprised since this line was supposed to get cut off on Janaury 2, 2010. I called AT&T from Cardinal (I was at work) and they informed me that Ken called them and requested the phone line to be active until January 23, 2010. TV and Internet had been cut off on January 2, 2010 as planned. This account was ONLY in my name, under my social security number, with a password and security questions, all of them which Ken did not know. AT&T mistake or not, the phone should have been off. I requested this line to be cut off immediately. I also went online and took a look at the activity on the phone line. This is when I noticed that Ken was at home that day (took a day off from work apparently) and also has been calling his "lady friend" from the home phone, one call was at 10:36pm at night only 2-3 days after I moved out. I set up all phone calls placed to the house to be forwarded to my cell phone. As of today (1/23), I am still receiving incoming phone calls but the outgoing phone calls have been terminated since last week.

Kids complaning

I picked up the kids on Friday January 22, 2010 at 6pm from Idlewild home and daycare. They immediately started to complain about Ken. About the fact that he yells at them in the morning, feed them junk food (ie canned raviolis, donuts, cookies, doritos) and even though Ken complains to them about not having them enough, when they are spending the night, he is outside on his cell phone for hours at the time while they are in the house alone (no cell phone signal inside Idlewild home). The kids are also sleeping on the lay-out couch in the living room instead of sleeping in their own beds and bedrooms. They are saying that they do not get enough rest because it is not as comfortable as their beds.

Catching up....

December 30, 2009: MOVE
December 31, 2009: Ikea
January 1, 2010: Called 911, Ken refused to leave house
January 3, 2010: Went out to meet a friend while kids were at home, J got upset, called Ken. Ken and Berlyn at my house picking up J when I arrived. Argument.
January 4, 2010: Argument when Ken brought J back at the house. Shoved me when I was asking to leave, foot in door. Followed me while dropping off D and J at school, tried to block my way with the car. Drove to the Homewood Police Department. Filed complaint of domestic battery.
January 12, 2010: Found condoms at Idlewild Home, removed last boxes and computer. House was dirty, took pictures
January 16, 2010: Had friend over at my home. Ken drove in front of the house with kids, saw car. Harassed me over the phone until I mentioned friend was cop. Present was JT.